Recovery Is Important To The Whole Family
You may have heard the phrase, “Addiction is a Family Disease” and wondered what that meant. When an individual is suffering from addiction, surrounding family members have to find a way to cope with the stresses of addiction. The way each family member deals with the addict varies, and it is often times not a conscious reaction. For instance, one family member may act resentful and bitter showing hostility towards the addict’s behavior. Another family member may be an enabler making excuses for the addict and allow them to get away with their behavior without consequences.
For most people, it’s impossible to separate addiction and family. The two are intertwined in the lives of most addicts, so capitalizing on the strength of family to overcome addiction is an important strategy. In many cases, addiction has its roots deep in the family. A long-lasting recovery depends on treating the family, as well.
Family Therapy in Rehab
It’s almost impossible to go through addiction recovery without talking about your family of origin. There’s a hereditary component to addiction, but even without that, addiction would probably run in families. Substance abuse is partly a learned behavior that anyone can pick up when they grow up in the right environment. That’s why your family’s role in drug and alcohol addiction treatment is so crucial.
Many people blame their families for their addiction, but the connection is more complicated than that. Stress and exposure to trauma can play a significant role in addiction. Children who are exposed to trauma, such as physical or sexual abuse, are more likely to develop an addiction when they grow up. The child doesn’t have to be the subject of the abuse to be affected. Kids who even witness abuse have the same potential outcome.
Abuse is more prevalent in families where addiction is present. An alcoholic parent is more likely to be abusive or tolerate abuse in the home. Children grow up believing substance abuse is the only escape they have from stress and violence.
Not all abusive households are violent. In some, the abuse is emotional and comes from neglect. Parents who abuse substances may ignore their children because they’re too preoccupied with feeding their addiction. Their children then grow up believing that adults can’t be counted on, which can lead to a substance addiction.
Family Involvement in Substance Abuse Treatment
The importance of family therapy in recovery stems from the family’s involvement in the addiction. For most people, the family is their primary support system. Family involvement with drug and alcohol rehab includes education about addiction, so the relatives are equipped to be supportive of the recovery effort.
Family dynamics can sometimes make it hard to maintain a life of sobriety. Family therapy seeks to heal the relationships in a family, so they’re not destructive. Even the most well-meaning family members don’t always understand the affect they have and end up enabling addiction instead of supporting recovery.
A family member who’s recovering from addiction may have caused wounds within the family during the addiction. Part of addiction recovery is healing those wounds and rebuilding a healthy environment at home. Family therapy can facilitate that healing and promote forgiveness.
Family Therapy at Tranquil Shores
Tranquil Shores understands the importance of family therapy in addiction recovery and offers services that incorporate family healing into your program. We encourage family members to participate in therapy sessions and offer outreach services to support family members dealing with addiction.
The recovery services for families at Tranquil Shores help rebuild relationships between parents and between children and parents. Family relationships a complex. When they are healthy, they can be the most supportive relationships in your life. Through family therapy, the goal at Tranquil Shores is to heal and strengthen those family relationships to help ensure a lasting recovery.
Being A Spouse of Someone with a Substance Abuse Disorder
If your spouse has a drug or alcohol problem, you’re all too aware of the damages—to your spouse.
But do you realize that addiction is a three-way destroyer, for couples? It destroys your spouse; it destroys you; and it destroys the unique relationship that make you a couple.
You plainly see the agony of your spouse, as addiction hacks away at the most basic aspects of life: personal hygiene, going to work, paying bills, and interacting with family and friends.
The agony strikes at you. You need not be an abuser yourself, as you’re caught up not only in the pain of seeing your spouse suffer, but in the consequences of addiction: financial ruin, your own work and schedule disrupted, a sense of guilt that consumes you as you ask, “Why did this happen? What could I have done?”
Your relationship—the pure magic that had never existed before the two of you came together—is painfully throttled as alcohol or drugs alter your spouse’s personality. When one side of the equation changes, things no longer add up to the same results.
Tranquil Shores understands the importance of including the entire family in the recovery and counseling process. In the environs of our relaxing Florida rehabilitation center, you will learn support techniques that will assist your spouse’s recovery. You will become an active and integral part of the process of reclaiming your spouse’s life, your own life, and the very existence of your relationship.
Being The Child of a Parent Suffering From Addiction
Addiction is not a stable condition. Areas of life requiring focused, rational thought become neglected and chaotic: Work, relationships, paying the bills, personal health—in fact, all aspects of life deteriorate.
But for an addict who is also a parent, it doesn’t stop with only one life teetering out of control. A parent is responsible not only for his/her own life, but for the child’s. A child depends on a parent for guidance, decisions, and physical support.
And when that support falters? When the guidance and decisions from the parent become faulty, inconsistent, incoherent or outright irrational, how does it affect the child? The resulting instability can be just as detrimental to the child’s ability to think, function, and live, as the chemical addiction is for the parent.
A survey estimates that over eight million children have one or more parents with a substance abuse problem.*
Tranquil Shores offers comprehensive treatment for your addiction in the relaxing environment of our Florida rehabilitation center. As a person, your recovery will earn you personal satisfaction as you reclaim your life. As a parent, you will realize even greater satisfaction as you reclaim your child’s life.
Signs That a Family Member Might Be Struggling With Addiction
The below is by no means an exhaustive list. And none of the above, even in combination, are proof of a substance abuse problem. But any of these could indicate a problem of one kind or another, serious enough that professional help should be considered.
If you suspect that a family member suffers from addiction, please contact Tranquil Shores. Our trained and experienced staff will consult with you confidentially and discreetly, to help you understand what options are open to you, and for your valued family member.
How To Help A Family Member Struggling With Addiction
When someone is suffering from addiction they find they are their own worst enemy. Even though they know they are doing something to themselves that is hurting them, the compulsive behavior is impossible to control. Often times an individual needs help outside of their own abilities to control their behavior when it comes to substance abuse.
Treatment can help the individual understand why they are compulsively turning to substances to cope with their feelings and gain a support network to help surround them with people that want to support their recovery.
At Tranquil Shores our group, individual and family therapy can help the individual understand the reasons behind their behavior and teach them the tools necessary to maintain a sober, healthy life.
Family Recovery with Tranquil Shores
Family participation is crucial to the recovery process both for the addict as well as the family. The family dynamics around addiction can be confusing and hard to understand. Having a licensed therapist equipped to treat the individual and family dealing with addiction is a key factor in determining successful recovery.Tranquil Shores offers family therapy as well as resources for families to get additional counseling when a loved one is in our treatment program. Family members need healing too and should have a support system around dealing with addiction.
Call us today and learn more about our Family Component as well as the rest of our treatment program. Together we can help you ReClaim Your Life!